Free Hugs: Hug for Freedom

Mother Teresa quote

This post is in response the Daily Post Weekly Writing Challenge: “tell us about a moment when your life changed in a split second.”

In my younger days, if I were at the trial of Jesus, I would have probably voted with the rest of the crowd to crucify him. I used to be such a judgmental and closed minded person, which is probably why in 1999 all my traveling companions abandoned me in Sri Lanka, a small island formerly known as the Island of Serendipity off the southern coast of India.

Luckily, right before they abandoned me I had just finished a week long meditation retreat; otherwise, I might have struck them down “with great vengeance and furious anger” Pulp Fiction style. At the retreat an experienced meditator whom other guests called the “sitting one” said that I needed to go to India to get a hug from a guru named Amma.

“My traveling partners wouldn’t even come to this retreat; there is no way they will agree to go to India to see a hugging guru,” I whined to the “sitting one.”

He didn’t say another word, but on the day of my departure from the retreat, he handed me a slip of paper with the full name of the guru and the village where her ashram was located.

When I got back to the coast of Sri Lanka to meet up with my fellow travelers, I found a note attached to my belongings that were piled in the middle of the guesthouse where we had been staying. The note said that everyone was headed for the airport without me. Since I was on the Island of Serendipity, I treated this as a happy accident and booked a flight to India.

Three weeks later, standing in a snaking queue for over 2 hours in the heat of Mumbai (formerly known as Bombay), I began to doubt the advice of the “sitting one.” The entire concrete auditorium I was waiting to enter was covered with huge posters of a rotund smiling Indian woman. Vendors packed the streets outside the hall selling pictures, pamphlets, stickers, and even dolls of “the embodiment of Divine Motherly love.” It felt more like an Indian version of a Grateful Dead show than a meeting with a wise lone sage on a mountain top.

When I finally got to the front of the line, however, I knew that I had made the right decision. Amma stared at me like a childhood best friend that she hadn’t seen since the first grade. I almost looked behind me to see whom she was looking at. The beautiful saint dressed in all white wrapped her arms around me and, cheek to cheek, chanted something in my ear. This is when I lost track of time. Maybe it was from the heat or the 4 hours of waiting, but I lost consciousness resting on the soft silk sari draped over Amma’s shoulder.

vaniAmrita / Foter / CC BY-NC

When the attendants pulled me off, I had no idea if I had been hugged for 10 minutes or 10 seconds. Half dazed, I reached out to take the “vibhuti”–sacred ash–and candy treats that Amma handed each person she hugged. Amma gripped my hand and pulled me back as I attempted to exit with the rest of the post-hug devotees. At that moment, I thought I had done something sacrilegious. Amma spun me around and handed me off to an attendant in a bright orange robe who, at the request of Amma, lead me onto the stage behind the guru where the swamis, attendants, and musicians were sitting.

Since I was the only person on the stage in Western clothing, I had no idea what I was supposed to be doing up there. As I sat behind Amma on the raised stage, I watched as throngs of Indians elbowed their way up to the front of the queue. I could see the line of people stretching the whole length of the hall, out the door, past the entryway, and into the street. Suddenly, a troublesome thought popped into my mind: Had I been recruited to be a lifelong disciple of this guru? While I was contemplating whether I could make such a huge commitment, I noticed a disturbance in the crowd.

Some policemen dressed in their brown uniforms had pushed their way to the front of the line. Although the other Indians who had been waiting for hours looked pretty upset that these officers were abusing their role as policemen, no one seemed to have the power to do anything about this injustice. I was going to tell one of the attendants when I realized that Amma was a guru. It is said that gurus can not only see all of your life in one glance, but also all of your past lives and karma as well. Amma would know that these officers had abused their power. She would send them back to the end of the line. I could not wait to see the look on the police officers’ faces when Amma refused to hug them because they were not worthy.

As soon as Amma saw the policemen, she smiled. I knew that she sensed what had happened. Then to my amazement, Amma took each officer and gave him a big long hug. I could not believe my eyes. Then it dawned on me. Amma is the embodiment of unconditional love. Unconditional love means that you love others regardless of what they have done, what they look like, how they smell, or what Gods they worship. You do not reject anyone if you love unconditionally. Like many of our mothers who love us in any shape or form, Amma accepts us with open arms just as we are.

I smiled when I finally realized what unconditional love was. At that very instant, Amma turned around, looked me straight in the eyes, and smiled deeply. She then pulled an attendant aside and whispered something into his ear. The attendant approached me and said, “Amma says you can go now.”

HARI IMAGES / Foter / CC BY-NC-SA

This split second altered my whole worldview:

  1. The fact that Amma knew exactly what I was thinking at the exact moment I was thinking it made me realize that there are things I don’t know nor understand. I am humbled by this ignorance. Rather than act like I know it all, I try to have what Zen practitioners call “a beginner’s mind” with an attitude of openness, eagerness, and lack of preconceptions.
  2. This experience also gave me a model for what unconditional love was. Up to this point, I only knew unconditional love as an abstract concept. This lesson showed me how unconditional love is a daily practice. Rather than judge everyone for everything they do, I now try to love whoever I can, whenever I can.
  3. Perhaps most importantly, this miraculous event verified for me the existence of a higher power. When I recall all the serendipitous events that lead me to this encounter, I cannot help but feel like a smaller vessel in a much larger current. No matter what is going on in my life, I know that I am not alone and freedom is just a hug away.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and/or smiling.

What event rocked your world and affects you to this day? Please share.

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31 comments on “Free Hugs: Hug for Freedom

  1. Anonymous says:

    Awesome post, Kozo. Alan (Jim)

  2. Jeni says:

    How did you know I was smiling? I mean: am. AM smiling!

    • Kozo says:

      Thanks, Jeni. That means the world to me. I tweeted a saying, “Happiness and smiles are like the chicken and egg dilemma.” I hope your smiles create happiness and visa versa. .

  3. diannegray says:

    What an incredible experience :D

  4. eof737 says:

    I was leaving a comment and got cut off… Glad to know you are an Amma person! A beautiful surprise. ;-)

    • Kozo says:

      Thanks, Elizabeth. I noticed the Amma badge on your blog when I followed you, but even before I saw the badge, I could tell by your posts and comments that you are all about lovingkindness.

      • eof737 says:

        TY and I’m glad I came back and read this again… It is hysterical in parts… Pulp Fiction style had me on the floor. Amma is amazing… still working on me. :-)

  5. Absolutely profound! Thank you for sharing such sacred moments>>>

  6. NIKOtheOrb says:

    Your children are lucky to have you as guide, mentor, teacher, and father. These are wonderful lessons to pass on to the young (as well as to us all).

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  9. Mystery says:

    I hope to meet her once! :) She sounds like an awesome person!! :)

    • Kozo says:

      We are truly blessed to have access to this incredible Hugging Saint. She travels all around the world and hugs for FREE. My sons ask me all the time when Amma is coming back. They love her hugs. If you get the opportunity, drop your mouse, call in sick, and just go. Thanks for reading and sharing. {{{Hug}}}

  10. MindMindful says:

    When I 1st met Amma, & was in Her embrace, I also had the sense that time was standing still. Or, more accurately: that there was no time. Maybe the linear progression of time (as we usually think of it) is only our pitiable attempts to stave off the miracle & obligations of truly loving unconditionally……….

    Lovely experience, you had. Thanks so much for sharing it:)

    • Kozo says:

      Wow, MindMindful, I’m going to have to let that thought marinate a bit. I think you are onto something huge, but I can’t quite grasp it yet. If we surrender to unconditional love then we are released from the illusion of time. Wow.
      Thank you for your insight and wisdom.
      I would love to hear more about your experience with Amma.
      {{{Hugs}}}

      • MindMindful says:

        I don’t quite grasp it either, lol. But — I do think there’s some deep truth there & I think you’ve distilled it further ….. maybe we’ll get it, eventually:)

  11. seeker says:

    I came here today, Dec 22, 2012 to get a free hug from you Kozo. Instead, a lesson to be learnt, unconditional love. Namaste.

  12. dinanath says:

    Lucky you. You traveled all the way around the world to get Amma’s hug. I always thought I would do it but never did. Once, she was in Bangalore in a place barely 3 km from where I lived. The place was a large ground used typically for industrial exhibitions, rock concerts and such mega events. I was not sure of the crowd but was apprehensive given that it was arranged in the grounds. When I went there I found thousands of people lined up and the queue winding like a snake for more than a kilometer. I lost heart. I cannot stand in a queue in the hot son for an entire day! I bowed mentally and wondered at her compassion…I mean imagine hugging thousands sweaty, dusty people in a row all day!!!
    I have recommended her to several of my friends but I myself am yet to blessed.
    Dinanath

    • Kozo says:

      Yeah, seeing Amma in India can be crazy. When I saw her it was 1999, but I’m not sure I would wait in line nowadays. Seeing Amma in San Ramon, CA isn’t bad. I’m not sure where you live, but it is worth a trip to get a hug. My sons ask me all the time, “When are we going to see Amma?”
      Thanks for reading and commenting. {{{Hugs]}} Kozo

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  15. 1EarthUnited says:

    Kozo my lovely one, it’s official! Amma is the guru of unconditional love, YOU my friend are the Guru of Unconditional ♥{{{Hugs}}}♥ Blessings & infinite love to you and your family. You are now a born again guru, haha! :D

    • Kozo says:

      Glad I’m born again, Maddy, because my life before was full of ego and delusion. Thank you so much for reading old posts and thank you for your kind responses to a confrontational commenter. You are a true friend who deserves unlimited unconditional {{{Hugs}}}. Love, Kozo

      • 1EarthUnited says:

        Thanks Kozo, I’m honored to be your friend and I feel every one of your loving hugs so deeply. I’m revitalized every time I visit your blog, like we’re long lost buds sharing Mai Tais on the beach in Rio. ;) Cheers 2 U. ♥

  16. This is an amazing story. I was curious when you mentioned Amma the Hugging Saint not long ago in a comment. An experience like that would have blown my mind.

    “Unconditional love means that you love others regardless of what they have done, what they look like, how they smell, or what Gods they worship. You do not reject anyone if you love unconditionally. Like many of our mothers who love us in any shape or form…”

    So very true, Kozo.

    • Kozo says:

      If you ever get the chance to have “darshan” with Amma, drop everything and go. I feel blessed to have been hugged by her a number of times. My sons often ask, “When are we going to hug Amma?”
      I always talked about unconditional love and onelove, but I never knew what it was until I met Amma.
      {{{Hugs}}} for reading older posts. Kozo

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