“No matter who you are, no matter where you are, no matter what your current circumstances, the magic of gratitude will change your entire life.”–Rhonda Byrne
I recently did all the exercises in Rhonda Byrne’s book The Magic, including writing down ten things to be thankful for everyday for 28 days and reading the entire list everyday. By the 28th day the list had 280 sentences and took about 25 minutes to read out loud. This exercise changed my perspective, my thoughts, and my life. After I finished the 28th day, I was relieved and saddened that the 25 minute daily ritual was over. I knew I should continue the practice, but it seemed like a lot of work.
Then I stumbled upon iRuniBreathe’s blog. She listed 5 things to be grateful for on the sidebar of her blog everyday, archived the list daily, and posted them at the end of the month. Truth be told iRuniBreathe got the idea from Writing Ruth.
This is my archive that I will post at the end of the month. Note that some of the things I am grateful for have not happened yet, but I am creating the reality of them happening through gratitude.
Thank you for school picnics; jumpy houses; Star Wars (the original); birthdays; mindfulness for children at Insight Meditation Center.
Thank you for chicken soup to nurse a cold; ume plums; my son’s squishy cheeks; zafu pillows; ear phones.
Thank you for vegetarian family meals; Japanese yams; carpooling; spinach salads; eyebody exercises; blogs.
Thank you for parent teacher conferences; carbon footprints; friendly strangers; strange friends; the love of my brothers.
Thank you for reconciliation; David Daeda’s gender analysis; David Richo’s NVC; Curry Up Indian Food; a day in the hills of Marin.
Thank you for the amazing interview with Dr. Ted Zeff; highly sensitive boys; compassionate men; my son’s love; family photos.
Thank you for Dr. Rick Hanson’s generosity; Vipassana friends; free lunch at Google; horchata; flavored water.
Thank you for children’s floss; wooden trains; FastTrak; giving up the need for security in money; photos taken by friends.
Thank you for restarting my gratitude practice; my wife and my new workshop idea; long car rides with my wife; 4 AM meditation; 6 disc CD changers.
Thank you for Goenkaji’s teaching; eradicating sankhara; the Eckarte Tolle book my sister-in-law lent me; The Way of Liberation by Adyashanti; Dharmaseed.
Thank you for a day without conflict; water in a glass; the infinite now; Ender’s Game; empathic main characters; science fiction.
Thank you for Pali chanting; St. Francis de Assisi; putting holds at libraries; Interchange Counseling; Steve Bearman.
Thank you for counseling; clienting; not trying to fix anything; loving my clients; loving my work.
Thank you for sincerity; authenticity; the courage to tell my story; zafu pillows; guided meditation.
Thank you for Bearded Papa; fruit plates shaped like faces; walking through horse stables; Molokai; Jamaica Osorio.
Thank you for Richard Rohr’s insight; Meng Tan agreeing to do an interview; cosmic connections; giving attention to my wife; going down the rabbit hole of my fantasies to discover my need of being wanted.
Thank you for free art projects at the library; playing London Bridges with 20 kids; library volunteers; napping after lunch with my 3 year old; homework club.
Thank you for my nephew’s love for my sons; ping pong with kids; magic tricks; garage playrooms; trading inspirational youtube videos with my nephew.
Thank you for a silent conversation with a cat; non-violent communication with my brother; hugs from strangers; watching a master counselor in action; finding allies serendipitously.
Thank you for writing my bio and having the courage to share it with others; understanding from those who thought I might offend; a trajectory towards heaven; Fort Mason in SF; farmer’s markets on Sunday.
Thank you for a beautiful day at the beach; gender talks with my new friend A.S.; revealing my heart and getting smiles in return; caring for others; learning to feel adequate.
Thank you for discovering a new sangha at an Adyashanti discussion group; the amazing story of parental love and non-attachment I heard today; getting the boys to school on time today; the cheeky slow driver who made me realize how silly it is to rush; the saying “sin happens whenever we refuse to keep growing.”
Thank you for my son’s meltdown to teach me about compassion; all the supportive comments I received from my lovely blogging friends; the hug my son gave me after the meltdown; more than a year of knowing Rarasaur; one of the parents who texted me empathy.
Thank you for the Family Feast at my son’s school; homemade Acai shakes; happiness from doing good; fierce gentleman.com; Fr. Richard Rohr agreeing to a live interview for the Compassionate Interviews Series.
Thank you for a wonderful interview with Meng Tan; the Star Wars exhibit at the Tech Museum; my son’s understanding that Darth Vader is not a “bad guy,” just a hurt person who hurts others; X-Wing fighters; “Trust your feelings, Luke” advice from Obi Wan Kenobi.
Thank you for the film I Am; sleeping in the living room with my son; all the compassionate men out there; Dyson Blade handdryers; the excitement of the holidays.
Thank you for closed city parks that we got all to our selves; anyone who cleared out all the poison oak near the creek; chocolate covered pretzels; massage chairs at Costco; Macklemore’s song “A Wake.”
Thank you for the smoked turkey by my step father; mashed potatoes from Mitch; all the cousins playing with my sons; the wonderful emails I got from new friends on Thanksgiving; a family gathering without any reactions or negativity.
Thank you for a wonderful play date with Natalia; the beautiful warm weather; tennis in the park; stealing snacks from my kids; school starting again.
Thank you for Frozen; my 3 year old’s crush on both the princesses in Frozen; Olaf from Frozen; Popcorn in a movie theater; frozen yogurt in November.
Thank you for the couple’s retreat at Spirit Rock; the beautiful North Bay; listening to Tara Brach with my wife; a second Thanksgiving dinner with my brother’s family; the power of intentions.
Thank you for the symbiotic counseling session with Marika; past life experiences that illuminate present life experience; saudage; increasing the frequency of presence; burnt cornbread.
Thank you for the one-on-one time I got to spend with my wife; school photos; hugging my son when he is tantruming; how my 6 year old decorated the tree by himself; “love never melts” said by my 6 year old son.
- If you’re doing meditation you may be missing the point (living-minimalist.com)
- “Stop Breathing on My Neck. I’m Trying to Be Compassionate.” (everydaygurus.com)
- Everyday Thanksgiving: July 2013 (everydaygurus.com)